Q. I'm short and I don't want to look all squished together
btw I'm 15
I have the pointy heels :)
btw I'm 15
I have the pointy heels :)
A. From Your Feet Up:
Shoes:
One way to elevate your stature is by wearing height-increasing footwear or apparatuses such as lifts, thicker insoles, elevator shoes, and shoes with thicker soles. These can all easily add a few inches to your height.
Shopping tip: When shopping for shoes, try sticking to bulkier styles so that your feet don't look too small.
Shirts:
Avoid wearing blazers and cardigans with more than three buttons because they will draw unwanted attention to your shorter upper body. Also, make sure that your blazers and jackets fall slightly below your buttocks, as this will make your body look slightly more elongated. While you should try to avoid double-breasted suits, if you do choose to wear one, do up all the buttons (including the lower ones), as this will give you a longer look.
Also, when wearing a sports jacket, make sure there's as little contrast between your jacket and trousers as possible, to maintain the natural vertical lines. Center and side vents also add the effect of a prolonged vertical line.
In terms of sweaters and T-shirts, V-necks can help make your torso look longer. Turtlenecks, on the other hand, can make you look stumpy, as they conceal your neck.
Look for formfitting shirts in order to avoid excess fabric when tucking them in and opt for point collars instead of spreads. Finally, keep in mind that tucking in your shirt can place the emphasis on your legs and torso, which might make you look shorter.
Shopping tip: Shortening the length of a shirt is generally easier than reducing the length of its sleeves, so make sure the shirt fits properly around your shoulders and body, first and foremost. If it does, then you can have the overall length and the sleeves adjusted.
Pants:
Do not wear your pants too high; you should wear them just above your hips. Also, avoid wearing low-rise pants (even if they are the trendier alternative), as they tend to make legs look shorter than they already are.
Furthermore, avoid any kind of puckering around the hips, from tucking in your shirts or having full pockets, as it will make you look wider and hence, shorter.
Your trousers should break on your shoes slightly more than average, to help make your legs look longer by covering your socks properly.
It's also suggested to shun cuffs altogether. If you do decide to wear them, have your tailor hem them slightly more narrow than normal (that is, 1¼ inches instead of the usual 1½ to 2 inches). Finally, keep in mind that pants with no pleats or a single pleat are more flattering than multiple pleats.
Shopping tip: If you can't find any pants that fit properly, you can always have them custom-made or visit a specialty store near you.
Accessories:
When it comes to accessories, shorter men should avoid bow ties. Instead, they should wear narrower ties; solid, and regimental and diagonal patterns work best. Also, choose the less intrusive four-in-hand knot over the bulkier Windsor variety.
When buying a belt, remember that you can have it adjusted to any length by simply adding more holes. A belt that doesn't have holes is even easier, as it's fully adjustable for a perfect fit.
Finally, keep in mind that suspenders can emphasize your natural vertical line, so avoid them.
Shopping tip: Again, you can find many stylish accessories in special catalogs, at local specialty stores, or in the boys' section of larger department stores. If you're having trouble finding socks that fit, you can always give the socks in the women's department a try.
Just Look Good!
Just remember that the key is not necessarily to look as tall you can, but to look as good as you can. The proper fit and the right styles can make you look great, regardless of your height.
Shoes:
One way to elevate your stature is by wearing height-increasing footwear or apparatuses such as lifts, thicker insoles, elevator shoes, and shoes with thicker soles. These can all easily add a few inches to your height.
Shopping tip: When shopping for shoes, try sticking to bulkier styles so that your feet don't look too small.
Shirts:
Avoid wearing blazers and cardigans with more than three buttons because they will draw unwanted attention to your shorter upper body. Also, make sure that your blazers and jackets fall slightly below your buttocks, as this will make your body look slightly more elongated. While you should try to avoid double-breasted suits, if you do choose to wear one, do up all the buttons (including the lower ones), as this will give you a longer look.
Also, when wearing a sports jacket, make sure there's as little contrast between your jacket and trousers as possible, to maintain the natural vertical lines. Center and side vents also add the effect of a prolonged vertical line.
In terms of sweaters and T-shirts, V-necks can help make your torso look longer. Turtlenecks, on the other hand, can make you look stumpy, as they conceal your neck.
Look for formfitting shirts in order to avoid excess fabric when tucking them in and opt for point collars instead of spreads. Finally, keep in mind that tucking in your shirt can place the emphasis on your legs and torso, which might make you look shorter.
Shopping tip: Shortening the length of a shirt is generally easier than reducing the length of its sleeves, so make sure the shirt fits properly around your shoulders and body, first and foremost. If it does, then you can have the overall length and the sleeves adjusted.
Pants:
Do not wear your pants too high; you should wear them just above your hips. Also, avoid wearing low-rise pants (even if they are the trendier alternative), as they tend to make legs look shorter than they already are.
Furthermore, avoid any kind of puckering around the hips, from tucking in your shirts or having full pockets, as it will make you look wider and hence, shorter.
Your trousers should break on your shoes slightly more than average, to help make your legs look longer by covering your socks properly.
It's also suggested to shun cuffs altogether. If you do decide to wear them, have your tailor hem them slightly more narrow than normal (that is, 1¼ inches instead of the usual 1½ to 2 inches). Finally, keep in mind that pants with no pleats or a single pleat are more flattering than multiple pleats.
Shopping tip: If you can't find any pants that fit properly, you can always have them custom-made or visit a specialty store near you.
Accessories:
When it comes to accessories, shorter men should avoid bow ties. Instead, they should wear narrower ties; solid, and regimental and diagonal patterns work best. Also, choose the less intrusive four-in-hand knot over the bulkier Windsor variety.
When buying a belt, remember that you can have it adjusted to any length by simply adding more holes. A belt that doesn't have holes is even easier, as it's fully adjustable for a perfect fit.
Finally, keep in mind that suspenders can emphasize your natural vertical line, so avoid them.
Shopping tip: Again, you can find many stylish accessories in special catalogs, at local specialty stores, or in the boys' section of larger department stores. If you're having trouble finding socks that fit, you can always give the socks in the women's department a try.
Just Look Good!
Just remember that the key is not necessarily to look as tall you can, but to look as good as you can. The proper fit and the right styles can make you look great, regardless of your height.
Why do people not like to socialise with me?
Q. Hi,
Im a nerdy 16 year old with average looks and glasses. Im a bit shy and quiet. However Im not the worst case. I have different interests from other kids. I never get invited to socials or parties. What can I do to change this.
Thanks
Im a nerdy 16 year old with average looks and glasses. Im a bit shy and quiet. However Im not the worst case. I have different interests from other kids. I never get invited to socials or parties. What can I do to change this.
Thanks
A. What does nerdy mean? The classic look that includes pocket protector, incredibly ugly and ill fitting cloths - heavy on the plaid, greasy Einsteinian hair, and - the cream de la cream - toilet paper trailing from a shoe. What do these mean about a person? What they mean is the person is in a state of learned helplessness in terms of social approval. Its awfully easy to comb and wash your hair and pull the toilet paper from the bottom of your shoe. But why bother the person knows that wont make any difference because the tougher skills of social interaction aren't there.
Your first obvious problem is that you think your problems have to do with rather superficial things about you. They are much more likely in the realm of skills you lack. Shy quite people can be very popular if they know the art of being approachable. When others approach you what do they get? The only clue you have given to that is the comment about different interests. High school, a socially awkward, problematic, and hostile environment for many reasons but on of the big ones is the identity crisis. Everyone is defining themselves and often in rather shallow terms of narrow interests. This age is characterized by hostility to anything that threatens the emerging self identity. At the same time young people are yearning for others who share their interests to bolster their own sense of identity and belonging. This can lead to activities comparable to missionary proselytizing and crusades/jehads.
What to do:
Ask yourself: How can I be more approachable? Open postures, friendly expressions and yes even grooming are important here. Now with grooming it is not nearly as important that you look trendy as you don't stink and show an attention to detail. If you look unusual but clearly you spent some effort looking that way it comes off as interesting.
Then ask yourself: How can I reward others for approaching me? Do I get uncomfortable and make them uncomfortable? Do I ask about them and show interest in what they are interested in? Don't ask if they have a collection of microscope slides right off. It is rude to ask people to rule themselves out as your friends first thing. You may be yearning for some one to share your fascination for 100 year old electrical motors and ham radio but start out with the most likely common interests and try not to show disappointment if they say no about something. Try to show interest in what they are interested in. You want to get invited to parties? This means that you need to do well at the acquaintance level. Patronize the narcissistic jocks you don't need them to be your BFF's but you do want them to enjoy your passing company enough to invite you to the party. Everyone's favorite subject is - themselves.
There are times to be rude. It is important to demand respect. When disrespected show fierce defense of your own pride. Show others you are worth respect because you respect yourself. Demand apologize and accept them when offered. It backfires every time to be so desperate for the approval of others that you will put up with abuse in hopes of acceptance. No - you don't have to fight back physically simply show disdain and withhold your own affection until they show respect. Demanding apologies is an invitation to repair a relationship. Do so strongly but with a measure of kindness. Everyone wipes their feet on doormats and leaves them outside for the party.
Your first obvious problem is that you think your problems have to do with rather superficial things about you. They are much more likely in the realm of skills you lack. Shy quite people can be very popular if they know the art of being approachable. When others approach you what do they get? The only clue you have given to that is the comment about different interests. High school, a socially awkward, problematic, and hostile environment for many reasons but on of the big ones is the identity crisis. Everyone is defining themselves and often in rather shallow terms of narrow interests. This age is characterized by hostility to anything that threatens the emerging self identity. At the same time young people are yearning for others who share their interests to bolster their own sense of identity and belonging. This can lead to activities comparable to missionary proselytizing and crusades/jehads.
What to do:
Ask yourself: How can I be more approachable? Open postures, friendly expressions and yes even grooming are important here. Now with grooming it is not nearly as important that you look trendy as you don't stink and show an attention to detail. If you look unusual but clearly you spent some effort looking that way it comes off as interesting.
Then ask yourself: How can I reward others for approaching me? Do I get uncomfortable and make them uncomfortable? Do I ask about them and show interest in what they are interested in? Don't ask if they have a collection of microscope slides right off. It is rude to ask people to rule themselves out as your friends first thing. You may be yearning for some one to share your fascination for 100 year old electrical motors and ham radio but start out with the most likely common interests and try not to show disappointment if they say no about something. Try to show interest in what they are interested in. You want to get invited to parties? This means that you need to do well at the acquaintance level. Patronize the narcissistic jocks you don't need them to be your BFF's but you do want them to enjoy your passing company enough to invite you to the party. Everyone's favorite subject is - themselves.
There are times to be rude. It is important to demand respect. When disrespected show fierce defense of your own pride. Show others you are worth respect because you respect yourself. Demand apologize and accept them when offered. It backfires every time to be so desperate for the approval of others that you will put up with abuse in hopes of acceptance. No - you don't have to fight back physically simply show disdain and withhold your own affection until they show respect. Demanding apologies is an invitation to repair a relationship. Do so strongly but with a measure of kindness. Everyone wipes their feet on doormats and leaves them outside for the party.
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